Nurture your character.
Nurture your character.
I want to think that God smiles when a Black woman is brave enough to love herself.
TEN BEHAVIORS OF GENUINE PEOPLE:
- They don’t seek attention.
- They’re not concerned with being liked.
- They can tell when others are full of shit.
- They are comfortable in their own skin.
- They do what they say and say what they mean.
- They don’t need a lot of stuff.
- They’re not thin-skinned.
- They’re not overly modest or boastful.
- They’re consistent.
- They practice what they preach.
I spied this on my ig feed and I wholeheartedly agree with this list. I’d like to add that genuine people are honest with themselves and, in turn, of course they feel freer to be honest with others. They also inspire others to walk their path and be truer to themselves.
Would you add anything to the list? Do you consider yourself genuine? With whom are/can you the most genuine? Do you ever, like myself, say fuck being real and just give everyone a fake representative because they don’t deserve to engage the real you?
AGAIN Cheat on me again Ignore me again Choose her over me again Disrespect me again Yell at me again Don’t buy me anything again Don’t introduce me again Choose them over me again Lie to me again Don’t call when you say you will again Don’t come when you say you will again Copy […]
I had the pleasure of hearing AND MEETING Shanti last month at a live performance and I just had to share her light with y’all! She is SO beautiful, humble, natural and.. real. And incredibly gifted. I just love her energy. If you can’t tell, she’s using a loop machine to record her voice/the track. I mean, who does that??! She’s magical.
It was when I stopped searching for home within others and lifted the foundations of home within myself I found there were no roots more intimate than those between a mind and body that have decided to be whole. -Rupi Kaur
(African Queen/Queen Charlotte artwork spied on pinterest)
Firstly, please check out Tremaine’s blog, simplesoulsister.com; she has the amazing knack to pack a punch in so few words that often resonate with me. Thank you, Tremaine.
When we are
truthful with ourselves
about our selves,
we hurt people less.
-“Eureka!”by Tremaine L. Loadholt
If you’ve ever read my blog, you probably know how I feel about self-realization and g-checkin; they are vital for growth of self and impact our relationships with others. Knowing yourself and being honest about it -“flaws” and all- eliminates the risk of someone else telling you who you are. Knowledge of self quiets the ego. And, chances are, those who are quick to jump the “friendship” ship or nitpick every move you make are the ones experiencing the worst internal conflict. They don’t like hearing about your momentum or what changes they could benefit from making and may not divulge much or get too close for fear of losing a good thing. They avoid alone time because they are not the best company. And quiet solitude often stimulates deep thought, right. Uh oh! They are their own worst enemy in this sense. I understand and empathize, but I cannot and will not internalize their problems, especially knowing that, outside of myself, I can only encourage the betterment of another, not a thing more. You just can’t hand out your free therapy/ open heart/thought-provoking conversation/beautiful spirit to anyone who still holds tight to overweight, negative baggage; their hearts are too heavy to welcome anything new, different and good. Your only job is to try – for you, for anyone you love. And do not blame yourself if they’re dismissive as that is merely a reflection of how they feel about themselves.
So if you recognize that you’re a mess and recognize your mess spreads easily onto innocent bystanders, be real + take the time to heal. Please. Accept the ugly parts of evolvement. Recognize necessary fixes. And apologize to those you’ve hurt, including you. Being truthful with yourself will inspire others to do the same. It will cultivate the tightest bonds because those who cannot handle your unfuckwithability and aren’t ready to grow with you will simply fall away.
Thank you again, Tremaine, for these simple words. I hope they reach those who need it.