week 16|2017

I find it extremely liberating to see that I was the cause of all of my problems. With this realization I have also learned that I am my own solution. This is the great big gift of personal accountability. When we stop blaming external forces and own up to our responsibility we become the ultimate creators of our destiny. – Jenna Galbut



I just love this.. I (re)discovered it saved in my screenshots and, man, after reading Dr. G’s wise words of co-creating, it resonates more than ever.

You know those people who always play the blame game? Who point the finger at everyone and everything except themselves? Yeah.. here’s to being the opposite of that. I know in the past, it was more difficult for me to take responsibility for my downfalls, especially if my intention opposed the receiving party’s perception. But now it’s like, ok, I see where you’re coming from. Discuss if necessary and move on. On the opposite of the same coin, I also have the power to remove blame gamers – actually, any and everything that disrupts my chi. I mean, why not make the best of this one life? Or at least do what’s in our power to try.



  1. thiscagedbird · April 19

    I love this.
    Years ago I discovered the power of self-evaluations. At the end of each relationship/situation, I simply reflect: “o.k. I am the common factor in all my equations, what did I do to invite this this time? what do I need to do differently next time to avoid defining ‘insanity'”.

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    • kelley · April 19

      Exactly! To recognize where you can improve and taking responsibility + action are signs of maturity. Growth.

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  2. Silksache't · April 19

    yessssss i agree, once you get to the point where you can take the L and say something was your fault, things go more smoothly and you can live an honest care-free life

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    • kelley · April 19

      Exactly! There is no winning in holding grudges, normalizing toxic behavior or lying to yourself.

      Thanks for the spot on comment!

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  3. K E Garland · April 19

    Ex…actly!!! Thanks for re-blogging this. Hope you don’t mind but I snagged this quote for my FB…love it!

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  4. 25, Black, and Alive · April 19

    I’m deading friends or phasing them out slowly because they haven’t evolved/ developed into this train of thought. No one should make excuses. As my sister just told me last week, “Especially men!” It’s an ugly characteristic on anybody.

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    • kelley · April 20

      True! Such a waste of energy, especially when you have so much love and knowledge to share.

      If we can’t grow together, what are we doing??

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      • 25, Black, and Alive · April 25

        I just realized as in a thirty minutes that I have to completely phase out one of my good friends for a while. He isn’t evolving. He is devolving. And it’s irritating because he knows what he haves to do. Buttttt…. It is what it is. I am cutting out all distractions and negativity. I/ WE don’t have time to waste. And that is exactly what we’re doing if we’re not growing together.

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        • kelley · April 25

          You better know it! If we’re not progressing, then what are we doing? There should be a clear answer to that in all relationships. Thanks for sharing your testimony.

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  5. e · April 26

    Ohhhhh… so very good.

    Liked by 1 person

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