The Unhappy Wife: A Book Review

As you all know, I’m not the best at book reviews, but I had to do it for my fellow blogging sister, Dr. Garland. She is beautiful, intelligent, honest and inspiring. When reading her posts, I often come away with a handful of golden nuggets and a new perspective, so supporting her new book was kind of a no brainer. Although I’m not married, engaged and never have been, Katherin promised that I’d gain something from The Unhappy Wife. And I did. Absolutely.

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Twelve women share one thing in common – the quest for being happily married to the men they chose; however, each one finds herself in an unexpected marital predicament. Inspired by real events and told from each woman’s perspective, these short stories are firsthand accounts detailing the realities of marriage well after each woman said “I do.”

I read The Unhappy Wife in one sitting. It’s a page turner, one wife’s tale being a nail biting thriller. You’ll enjoy it too if you, like me, like to learn about relationships [with a little side of drama]. I found myself laughing, clutching my pearls and shaking my head, thinking this cannot be real life. But with my mother being a longtime fan of shows like Snapped, Forensic Files, Judge Mathis and Dateline, I know these kinds of relationships are not uncommon.

I’m still learning from my experiences, but I saw my [mentally] younger self in many of these wives, being silenced by and committed to selfish boys disguised as men who I knew deep down were not the best match for me. Second-guessing my standards. Thinking I can love him into changing. Or I made him cheat. And that is the commonality: we ignore our intuition, all in the name of what we define as love.

You don’t need anybody else to validate your choices. The answer is always inside you. It’s called conscience. – K E Garland

Whether you’re a man or woman – married or not – The Unhappy Wife will give you a fresh perspective on relationships. And not just marriages, but all relationships. What I took away from this read? Many reminders that you have to know yourself. This is vital for survival and before embarking on any kind of ‘ship.

Don’t try to save face; if it ain’t working, it ain’t working. And that’s ok. We’re all human.

Lowering your standards for someone who is incapable of loving you the ways you need to be loved is not love, nor will it become love if you stay.

Know when to seek help. If it feels wrong, it probably is.

Compromising your happiness and sanity is not love.

There aren’t necessarily “happy endings” for these wives, but rather forward motion and life beyond their toxic situations.

Great job, Dr. Garland. Thank you.

If it doesn’t make you feel fabulous, don’t do it. Don’t buy it. Don’t keep it. And above all, don’t marry it. – unknown

Order your own digital or paperback copy of The Unhappy Wife 

 

 

 

 

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20 comments

  1. K E Garland · December 5

    Awww! Thank you Kelley! You know I adore you and your blog. Thanks so much for this review. I’m glad that you were, in fact, able to interpret a few of the messages from this book. A lot of times, I found myself asking the same question, “Is this someone’s life?” and “Did this person really participate in this marriage for…how many years?” Anywho, thanks again luv! I’ll be re-blogging soon.

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    • kelley · December 5

      You are so welcome! Thank you for all you do and spreading you love and words of wisdom!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. K E Garland · December 9

    Reblogged this on K E Garland and commented:
    Today’s review of The Unhappy Wife comes from someone that many of you might already follow, my girl Kelley, over at Gray Suede! Her site is super positive in terms of raising Black consciousness. Thanks again Kelley! I appreciate the support 😉

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    • kelley · December 9

      THANK YOU, Dr. Garland! I hope you know how highly I think of you, your blog and now, your book!

      Liked by 1 person

      • K E Garland · December 9

        Aw girl!!! It’s too early to make me cry. Appreciate you ma’am 😉

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        • kelley · December 9

          Are you a crier too? That makes me love you more LOL

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          • K E Garland · December 10

            Man see…lol I’m like 😐 in public spaces and then like 😭😭😭 as soon as I’m alone lol I’m working on that part of me. Sometimes I have to tell myself, “it’s okay to cry.”

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          • kelley · December 11

            haha! Me too! It’s not the crying but the way people react to it that’s my issue. Can I just be human for a moment?

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          • K E Garland · December 11

            EXACTLY! That’s what I was about to say…can’t a be a person today???

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  3. Lennon Carlyle · December 11

    Great review! I think this book is extremely important for single ladies as it can be a guide of what not to do or what to be prepared for “just in case”. As I’ve told Dr. Garland I honestly wish I would’ve read this in 1992 to beware. 🙂

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    • kelley · December 11

      Thank you! You can never be too prepared in these mean dating streets!

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  4. Lena · December 22

    I think I need to pick up a copy of this book.

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  5. brokenlena · December 22

    I need to pick up a copy of this book.

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    • K E Garland · December 24

      Please do. You can purchase either eBook or paperback here: kegarland.com

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  6. nosyjosie · December 27

    I am thinking its about time to order my copy too!

    Liked by 2 people

  7. Veronica · 6 Days Ago

    Sounds like a very good read..

    Liked by 1 person

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