I enjoyed this piece mostly because it was written by a man to men on their shitty behavior [instead of an angry woman who is fed up. I hear you, sis, but it’s time men take that responsibility]. In a patriarchal society, of course some men learn that they can do anything. Say anything. Have anything; the world is their oyster. Even the bad boys get praised for.. well, being bad. But, I would never think to say “men ain’t shit” because that is an undeserved generalization. Sure, plenty of men ain’t, but I know a nice amount of gentlemen who are genuine, sweet, respectful, patient and generous. You know the kinds that never post non-artistic mostly nude WCWs, never call women out of their name [unless it’s along the lines of queen or beautiful]. The ones that call you if you don’t call them to confirm that you made it home safely. The kinds that give and give yet only expect no more than a thank you in return. Buuuut, this piece really made me think about how they got to be “great” in my eyes. Possibly someone called them out on their shit? Maybe they lost the love of their life? Maybe they held onto a skewed list of priorities and realized they put value in the wrong things. Or or maybe they were made in test tubes and have just always been that awesome and never did any woman dirty?
The answers? Subjective. But I’m sure every man I know has had a foot, knowingly or not, in rape culture. It’s just nice to hear one admit it.
It’s a great read. I’d like to hear your take.
By Jalil Mustaffa Bishop Dear Men: We ain’t shit. I feel like it is time for me to write the letter that I wished someone gave to me a long time ago. This letter is addressed to cisgender/heterosexual people who identify as men (cisgender refers to people who self-identify with the gender socially assigned to…