week 48 || 2016: be present

All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time + denial of the present.

Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgivingness are caused by too much past and not enough presence.

-Eckhart Tolle

He Matches my Blackness [a reblog]

“We met in college. He walked me home from school every day for five years. We would talk about everything: how many kids we wanted, how we wanted to raise them, our roles in the home, where we wanted to live, and even where we wanted to go on vacation. So there really haven’t been […]

via She matches my blackness — Forever Black Effusion

ain’t sh*t men [a reblog]

I enjoyed this piece mostly because it was written by a man to men on their shitty behavior [instead of an angry woman who is fed up. I hear you, sis, but it’s time men take that responsibility]. In a patriarchal society, of course some men learn that they can do anything. Say anything. Have anything; the world is their oyster. Even the bad boys get praised for.. well, being bad. But, I would never think to say “men ain’t shit” because that is an undeserved generalization. Sure, plenty of men ain’t, but I know a nice amount of gentlemen who are genuine, sweet, respectful, patient and generous. You know the kinds that never post non-artistic mostly nude WCWs, never call women out of their name [unless it’s along the lines of queen or beautiful]. The ones that call you if you don’t call them to confirm that you made it home safely. The kinds that give and give yet only expect no more than a thank you in return. Buuuut, this piece really made me think about how they got to be “great” in my eyes. Possibly someone called them out on their shit? Maybe they lost the love of their life? Maybe they held onto a skewed list of priorities and realized they put value in the wrong things. Or or maybe they were made in test tubes and have just always been that awesome and never did any woman dirty?

The answers? Subjective. But I’m sure every man I know has had a foot, knowingly or not, in rape culture. It’s just nice to hear one admit it.

It’s a great read. I’d like to hear your take.

By Jalil Mustaffa Bishop Dear Men: We ain’t shit. I feel like it is time for me to write the letter that I wished someone gave to me a long time ago. This letter is addressed to cisgender/heterosexual people who identify as men (cisgender refers to people who self-identify with the gender socially assigned to…

via Open letter to the league of extraordinary ain’t sh*t men on rape culture. — RaceBaitR

nowhere be like Africa

No famine. No war. Just beauty-the parts of Africa media doesn’t want you to see.

Support Black Businesses This Holiday Season [a reblog]

For my Black family, if you must shop this holiday season, please seek out Black, small, local businesses to patronize. We need to support one another more than ever.

When will we stop this insanity? Black Family, I’ve been stressing this fact for over 3 years incessantly. In order for our people to survive this New World Order, we must build for ourselves by ourselves. All other races do it. In fact, they have seminars on how to exploit the black dollar, how to […]

via Support Black Businesses This Holiday Season — diaryofanegress

week 47 // 2016: flaws aren’t real

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One of our biggest mistakes as a culture is accepting that we have flaws. We, indeed, do not have flaws. We have differences. We have different paths of learning + growth. Why do we continue to perpetuate the degradation of our culture by accepting this mindset? There is no such thing as a flaw in a system where perfection does not exist.

-unknown

photo cred: #loveyourlines