Because sometimes life just takes over and we forget what used to come naturally. Thanks for this reminder + awesome list, Ashleee 😉

Completely focusing on my education and career drained me of my creativity. As a result, I was left with a void in my life. Five or so years ago, I made the decision to increase balance by doing all of the things that provided me with a creative outlet. Because I am a super helpful, […]


week 21 || 2016: third world problems

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much.

We have multiplied our possessions but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living but not a life.

We’ve added years to life, not life to years.

-George Carlin



I titled this “third world problems” because, essentially, America is a third world country by the most current definition.  I don’t know what this thing is that we’re doing now, but it’s definitely not first world. [As usual, the west has it backwards.] We are way too caught up in trivialities. Life didn’t begin the way many of us live it. In the beginning, we weren’t born to parents who had to hire a live-in sitter because they worked all day and had no time or energy to raise a family. We weren’t away from home 40+ hours a week, in the car half the day commuting to a workplace that forced us to spend most of the daylight hours indoors. We didn’t stay abreast to the latest gossip or line up for the new smartphone release. Cancer wasn’t a thing. Depression wasn’t a thing. There was no gentrification. No plastic surgeons. No credit card debt or home foreclosures. Folks didn’t worry if their favorite coffee spot had wi-fi so they could avoid any human contact outside of their screen. Or if the steamed milk was organic from a grass-fed cow, because it all just was.

People, not soulless drones, had individual and collective purpose and respected the Earth’s resources. People appreciated the little things, worked with the land to extract just what they needed: food, water and shelter. They found happiness in a rainy season that bore plenty of harvest. They looked out for their fellow man, bartered goods and raised families as a community. Loved much, much more than they destroyed.

That is first world living.

ego vs.

I often think she’d be so pretty without all the extras. But then again, she would probably look + act like a totally different person, so who knows? Society has us all fucked up..


Her eyebrows took up 2/3rds of her face and her lashes seemed to be reaching for both brows in an attempt to shake hands, wave or high-five. All things that are impossible for follicles-either real or fake-to do. I heard somewhere that eyebrows are the Swiss army knife of the human body. They protect your […]

via Evolution or Ego —


I always wanted what I used to think of as a unique name- like Naomi, Earth, Maya, Sade, Tierney, Niara or Veronica- at least something not so common. Instead, I grew up a Kelley alongside many, many Kellies, at one point being one of six in a middle school English class. Yea.. But Kelley does translate to warrior and I’ve been rocking with it for quite some time..I mean it could be worse like Annie or Beth-or Matilda! Right. So I guess I’ll stick with it.

Give your daughters difficult names that command the full use of tongue. My name makes you want to tell me the truth. My name doesn’t allow me to trust anyone that cannot pronounce it right.

-Warsan Shire


week 20 || 2016: Balance

There is a man in every woman and a woman in every man.
Women are the pillars of the world.
A complete person is one who can nurture both sides.

(Drabo, Skirt Power/Taafe Fanga, 1997)

Key words: nurture both sides.

Just a piggyback off last Wednesday’s post because it simply sums up what I believe + I thoroughly enjoyed hearing from my readers on the topic. I thank all of you that tuned in and took the time to comment. I love sparking  conversations like that.

a bit of black herstory

Sanitary Belt.
Sanitary Belt with Moisture-proof Napkin Pocket.
Carrier attachment for invalid walkers.
Bathroom Tissue Holder.
Back washer mounted on a shower wall and bathtub.

Mary Beatrice was born on May 17, 1912. Her sister, Mildred, invented the Family Treeditions game, which -you guessed it- helps people learn of their ancestors and family trees. And instead of selling the rights, Mildred manufactured the game + sold it herself.

They believed that their natural talent for discovery came from their nurturing, inventive father, Sidney Nathaniel Davidson; when Mary was a toddler, he started creating a pants presser that was patented in 1914.

Mary’s work on the Sanitary napkin wasn’t patented until 1956, and it wouldn’t be until 30 years after that she would be allocated a patent. The company first interested in her idea rejected it after they discovered she was an African American woman.

She also worked as a professional floral arranger who operated her own business. [source]

I had no idea what a sanitary belt was nor did I know the inventor of the bathroom tissue holder was a Black woman! I hope you learned a bit of history as well.