week 17 // 2015

Rapper Mos Def has been officially dethroned from the top spot on my  celebrity hotties list. My new number one is Howard Zinn. {just kidding! Most Def fo life!!}

howard zinnWhy did I just discover him tho, y’all??! It’s 2015! He’s written like 300 books! Well, maybe just 35. And has a movie on Netflix! And yes, I know he’s dead and he’d be 92 if he were alive, but maaan he had some sexyass ways of thinking! And, unlike Malcolm X and Dr. King, he was able to live a long, full life, stimulate so many minds and make the world a smarter, more progressive place. Just an extremely intelligent, optimistic, wordy and worldly man who was truly for the people.

A few Howard Zinn quotes:

“There is no flag large enough to cover the shame of killing innocent people.”

Ugh I feel this one so tough cuz of the recent deal with Eric Sheppard. So much more news coverage and disgust was shown toward Eric’s actions than the recent killings of our Black brothers! A flag > a human, basically.

“How can you have a war on terrorism when war itself is terrorism?”

Howard gets it. From the beginning of time [in America], that’s how they get things done. They just have this very clever way of never calling it terrorism.

man_hamster_wheel“I’m worried that students will take their obedient place in society and look to become successful cogs in the wheel – let the wheel spin them around as it wants without taking a look at what they’re doing. I’m concerned that students not become passive acceptors of the official doctrine that’s handed down to them from the White House, the media, textbooks, teachers and preachers.” 

Oh, Howard! Take me now! This is EXACTLY what is happening! Right before my eyes. Most Americans just do what they’re told and keep their heads down-only believing the rights and wrongs that are fed to them through these popular avenues. Everyone is so scared and jaded to even try. Rockefeller still has the nation of workers [not thinkers] he said he wanted.

A protestor on a bicycle thrusts his fist in the air next to a line of police, in front of a burning CVS drug store, during clashes in Baltimore“Protest beyond the law is not a departure from democracy; it is absolutely essential to it.”

Thank you, Howard. Call me crazy but I really wish I was in B’more for these protests.

“We don’t have to engage in grand, heroic actions to participate in the process of change. Small acts, when multiplied by millions of people, can transform the world.”

Do you understand the magnitude of force we’d have if we band together? The sick, power trippin, egotistical, immoral 1% would magically disappear. I live for the day.

Just some food for thought this humpday. RIP Howard Zinn and Freddie Gray.

12 Solid Reasons Why Life is Better in Your 30s

I just kinda love articles like this. They’re fun reads. And even though they’re not to be taken seriously and no one is giving lectures on them, they hold some truth. I mean people who did nothing they wanted to with their life always say dumb shit like ‘oh to be young and dumb again’ with a longing sigh and faraway look. Or say they wish they could be 21.

Why?

21 wasn’t that great to me. I think as life goes on, it gets better. Like wine.20s

12 Solid Reasons Why Life is Better in Your 30s

1. You get more respect. I beg to differ. Maybe cuz I’m just 30, not 30 something? I still have people thinking I’m in my early 20s and treat me as such. Even when I tell them my age, some don’t believe it and say things like “you don’t know nothin bout this, youngin’.” :\ Mad annoying yo.

2. You have better stuff. I agree that my taste has gotten much better. I wish I had a better car, man, but she’s still getting me where I need to go. And I’m closer than ever to my dream job.

3. You never have to go back to your 20s. Thank gaaawd! I had some serious trials in my 20s. I learned SO much about myself, which is a beautiful thing, but there are a number of things that, if I could, I would undo.

4. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. This is spot on. ‘No’ is a sufficient answer. Most people don’t deserve an explanation, nor do I longer feel obligated to give one 🙂

5. Your kids are out of diapers and off to school. uhhhmmmmm..whet? Hold ya horses, Redbook. Some of us are late baby bloomers.

6. You know what you want and won’t settle for anything less. This is very true. In all aspects of life-from work to a romantic partner-what kind of life are you living if you’re settling for less than what makes you super happy?

7. You get to buy real furniture. I bought real furniture in my mid-20s and I still have it! Is there a such thing as “fake” furniture??

8. You go to bed at 10p.m. hahahaahhahahaaha yea right! Unless I’m sick or have super early obligations in the a.m, this very rarely happens. Maybe it’s the artist in me that will not be forced to sleep, but if I’m in bed at 10, I’m reading or surfing or watching hulu.

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9. You judge less, criticize less, argue less and stress less. For me it’s true. Another reason why I got rid of Facebook: it was junk mail for my mind. Unless it’s a true loved one, I don’t dwell on other’s issues. I don’t sweat the small stuff. And I find myself empathizing much more instead of criticizing.

10. You’re more concerned about your health. I’ve always been concerned about my health. Any little change or discomfort and I think I’m dying.

11. You learn to appreciate life’s quiet moments. I’ve almost always been somewhat of an introvert so this isn’t new for me. So many things are thrown your way all day that it’s nice to sit alone and enjoy the quiet. I’m sure this is especially true for those with kids.

12. You are lucky you get to age. I’ve mentioned this before: getting old is a luxury. With our brothers getting killed everyday and folks dying of cancers and other diseases earlier and earlier, every birthday is a gift.

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So, my 30 somethings and older, do you agree with Redbook’s list?

week 16 \\ 2015

What a trying week I had.

You know how people say that ‘it could always be worse’ or ‘at least you have your health’? Well.. yea, those things are true yet I can’t help but question what the bleep is going on.

Why am I being tested?

What are these trials here to teach or show me?

The answers aren’t usually blatant or quick. And as a daydreamer and night thinker, I’ve exhausted myself creating the possible reasons for all the uncomfortable twists and turns this last week pulled. I mean it was like a snowball effect of mini soap opera style tragedies.

But in the end, I win. I win because I don’t have enough fingers to tick off all the wonderful things in my life. I win because I recognize that the struggles make the triumphs way sweeter. And I win because I’m still here, still chuggin.

BTW, have you seen the documentary ‘Happy‘? No? It’s on Netflix and a pretty good watch, especially if you’re feeling washed up and inadequate or just need to be brought back down to earth.

{speaking of earth, happy Earth Day!! Watch watch WATCH COWSPIRACY today for $1}

week 15 \\ 2015

So, with the help of my wise cousin Candace, I discovered Stevi. She’s a blogger after my own heart, y’all. I swear. She is a wonderfully refreshing writer, perfectly blending humor, eloquence and candor. Super smart as well. I binged read a handful of her posts and asked permission to share this piece in particular:

Don’t Get Your Word Vomit On My Shoes.

2/21/2015

People who know me, know that I’m opinionated. I usually have a viewpoint. I believe that dialogue is such an important part of human progression. Different viewpoints, opinions, and principles shape how people view the world. That makes it so hard for me to tell people to SHUT UP sometimes. We all know that this is the era that celebrates the critic, not the creator. People feel that their social media accounts gives them license to throw negativity, hatred, and nastiness out into the social realm. This heightened sense of empowerment makes for a cesspool of  “shade”. We sit back, watch people’s lives, and critique.

Contrary to popular belief, it’s valuable to have self control and discernment. We all need editing skills. There is never a need to call a girl a “THOT” or make fun of someone in a moment of humiliation. We don’t have to comment on everything that everyone does. It’s obnoxious. And honestly, it’s extremely vain to think that every thought that seeps out of our mouths is pure gold. When it comes to celebrities, it’s the absolute worst. I was guilty of this too- weighing in on stardom. Then I realized how these people live their lives under a microscope. We’ve all made mistakes because we’re human. The only difference between them and us… is fame. But at the end of the day, isn’t it pathetic to be obsessed with people who don’t even know your name? Who don’t even think about you?

A lot of the time, when we’re on Twitter or Instagram, we feel like we’re in a bubble. It can feel like a secluded space and we think that what we say won’t go far. However, all it takes is a couple of retweets and reblogs …and a trend starts. We have to stop exerting our opinion recklessly while being oblivious to the repercussions. But like I said, dialogue is necessary. While we have the power to influence trends, it’s important to acknowledge that celebrities shape culture. They create normalcy. It’s your human right to have an opinion and advocate for what you feel is right or wrong in the world. However, consider if trolling on the internet is contributing to the betterment of mankind.

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Thank for this, Stevi. I totally agree. I think the more positivity we spread-or at least try to- the better the world will be. And getting your unwarranted opinion or skewed viewpoint across [especially online] isn’t going to change the world for better. We have enough critics and naysayers.

just 3 days without sugar

So since we moved to the dirty dirty, my fam has been going kinda hard with the abundance of delicious food choices Atlanta and the surrounding has to offer. Since I’ve lived here before, I knew what was up, but they have had a definite influence now that they’re here with me.

Anywho, instead of just being some lazy fatties, we have become much more active and still enjoy preparing most of our meals at home. But my sis proposed a 10 day parasite cleanse [that she found on the Twitter] since she wants to get her skin “in order” and rid the body of the toxins eating processed meats and refined sugars can put in our bodies. Pluuuus she thinks I have a sugar addition. What??! I kinda do love my sweets! But I wouldn’t say I’m an addict. She just caught me on a bad week when I was having my ladyproblem and wanted Starbucks e v e r y d a y.

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But, without a smile, I said ok. No problem! Let’s do it.

To prove to myself that I could do it plus give my digestive system a little break. The cleanse is ten days total: first three days no/low sugar[including high-sugar fruits like bananas or apples 😦 ] and no dairy; and no meat for all 10 days. [FYI, we did indulge in fruits and veggies with less than like 3g of sugar, like cucumbers, zucchini and spinach. We’re not trying to die.] The no meat thing is not an issue for me, though, cuz I’m part pescetarian anyway hehe, but I did have a headache[a normal side effect] most of the first day from sugar withdrawal, I’m sure. I mean think about how much sugar we all consume: from a lil honey in your tea to a slice of toast to salad dressing. Even in my dang almond milk, fructose is ever-present.

The second day was actually a breeze. No headaches and I actually felt satisfied after my meals.

And the third day… did I even daydream of a pancake or a handful of grapes or some bomb Talenti gelato?? Heeeeeeeeellll yes, but I do think it is helpful [and necessary] for me to periodically cleanse in a way my body can handle. It forces resistance and creativity which drives you to whip up some unique dishes you wouldn’t necessarily try to make if sugar and meat were still on the menu. And, my best advice if you want to go for it?: Buy substitutions for your go-to snacks and meals that you actually enjoy and I promise it won’t be so bad.

And once you do get that first sugary morsel after a few days, oh how sweet it is!!

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I enjoy using my tiny little platform to speak my truths so..

I think it’s super cool being Black. I mean it is stellar. Never have I ever wanted to be anything different- was never even a thought! But these days, progressively more and more, it is scary as shit.

I understand that not all white cops are bad. Not all white people feel threatened by us. Not all of them are racists. Not all of them were bullied as kids and, in turn, took a career that gave them a position of authority, authority that they disgustingly abuse. I just wish they would use more of that extensive police training and actually run after suspects [or, in too many of these cases, unarmed non-suspects], buck up in some hand-to-hand combat, or shoot out some car tires instead of taking the cowardly route- beating, choking, firing off rounds and killing US.

And for what? Being a little mouthy. Getting scared and running away. Wearing a hood. Calling the police.

It feels like our increasing body count-whether done by cops, Black on Black or whoever- is swept under the rug and no one is taking blame for the massacre. Even when compliant, we’re unequally profiled because of our melanin. Oh, and I know we look it, but we’re not superhuman. I mean we are amazingly resilient, beautiful kings and queens, but a bullet or brutal beating or taser or nightstick harms us just the same as any human. We don’t need anymore Black bodies in body bags to prove that.

 

Thanks for reading.

Be smart. Be vigilant. Be blessed ❤

 

week 14 \\ 2015

Are you obsessed with likes or subscribers or retweets or followers or double taps?

I’m not gonna lie, I kinda was for a hot hot hot minute. And from people that don’t even really know ME or the greatness I’m capable of? Psshh!gtfoh

I had to step back and reevaluate the shit.. I was like, man, what does this even mean?? Really, what does it DO for my ego, my chi, my well-being? What value do these numbers have?

Of course we all wanna be loved and accepted and patted on the back and recognized for our contributions to the world- big or small. But social media is not the sole avenue to get that love. It’s a great place to share and interact and learn if you connect with like minds. But if you’re scrolling through waiting on more people to like or comment on a piece of your soul you just exposed, there needs to be some unplugging and serious recharging in your actual life outside of the smartphone screen.

Just sayin, don’t let it consume you or be the scale on which you measure your awesomeness. It’s your real-life awesomeness that matters.