Bearded Dapper Gents: Changing the Narrative and Perception of Black Men [a reblog]

Have you ever googled images for “Successful black men”? What did you find?

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Disheartened by his findings, NYC blogger and photographer, George Myrie spearheaded a movement. He organized a group of thriving, talented brothers from Brooklyn, Queens, Harlem and Jersey to create imagery that displays well dressed, successful black men in various parts of the city, to quell the negative stereotypes that depict black men as menacing, lazy, or uneducated. With this, the “Bearded Dapper Gents” (BDG) was born.

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While they have built a collection of images that are nothing less than awe inspiring, make no mistake, they are far more than just a group of handsome, bearded faces.
In addition to changing the narrative and the visual of urban black men, these brothers are also impacting change in their communities by not only mentoring young black men but also grooming them from the inside out.
BDG has launched their initiative, “A Brother’s Duty.” What is a brother’s duty? “A brother’s duty is to lift one up when he falls down, catch him when he stumbles, and give advice when needed.” In collaboration with “Pens of Power”, “Foster Care Unplugged”, and “100 suits for 100” men, BDG plans to change the lives of our youth one suit at a time.
Myrie explains, “We want to outfit young men with tailored suits because many have never experienced how it feels to wear one. A man’s outward appearance can change his whole perception and views on life and give him the confidence he needs to succeed.”


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Want to meet these handsome fellas? Come out to their charity event “The Rebirth of Cool” in NYC on July 30, 2016. (INFO HERE)

Charity events, mentoring, and appearances are just the beginning. Stay tuned for all that these Bearded Dapper Gents have in store and donate to the cause HERE .

**100% of all proceeds will go toward dressing young lads for success**

written by Mocha Carter – writer, singer, NYC event planner, & medical student for Huffington Post

It’s imperative that we see ourselves  in a positive light, especially when media continues to perpetuate the negative stereotypes of the criminal, effeminate, self-loathing, woman-hating lazy lowlife Black male. And it doesn’t mean just putting on slacks and a button up, but taking pride in how we present ourselves-showing the younger generations how it’s done. So THANK YOU, brothers; we need more of you doing your part to alter our image for the better.

For more of this visual goodness and overall feel goods, stalk these kings like I do via ig: @beardeddappergents #beardeddappergents

Black Art Matters: Me


As I’ve mentioned, I’ve been in the blogosphere for a little over four years now. But it wasn’t until I really started to share my authentic self that I gained more awesome, engaging readers like you AND these cool blogging awards and recognition. Again, thanks so much! I am humbled and reassured of my presence.

My art got published in a magazine last year[what?!] and now I’m featured on, a beautiful site  dedicated to uniting and uplifting Black men + women. It is an honor to be recognized by my peers that are doing what they can to spread love, create safe places for us to express ourselves, uplift one another and end the [online] gender war.

I appreciate every blogger and vlogger, writer and artists of all sorts that are actively doing their part to tell our stories. And I thank Akilah at Truuth Be Told for reaching out to me for this feature.

You can view more of my artwork + purchase on my site and Etsy shop.

Thank you❤


week 29 || 2016


Flowers.. they shed their petals like snakes shed their skin. They do not hold onto anything that is withering nor do they carry anything heavier than they can bear. They simply, gently and ruthlessly let go..

That’s how something so beautiful, delicate and alive is able to exist here. -unknown

[photo cred: pinterest]


The Grand Nidotopian Afro-Power Awards

I’m always humbled when my efforts are recognized by my peers. And to be amongst so many greats??! Wow. THANK YOU!

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Shalom and a pleasant welcome to one and all to the first ever Grand Nidotopian Afro-power Awards. As I said in my proclamation, this event is not a competition but a moment to recognize and appreciate all the hard work that you in the Afro-centric blogosphere put in everyday to raise consciousness whether socially, spiritually, economically, artistically or any other form you choose  in the African family home and abroad. Also if you were not selected for an award, it doesn’t mean that I don’t value you or your work. Another note, this event will be an ongoing one and will continue throughout the year at various intervals. Today will be marked as the summer edition of the Awards and the Autumn or fall edition will be in either late September or early October. So that means if you did not get an award now, there will be plenty of…

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week 28 || 2016: Steve knows what’s up


So I was at a taping of Family Feud. [It was for my mom’s birthday. It was free. She really wanted to go. Don’t judge me.] There was a lot of sitting and waiting and listening to directions + rules before the fun began, so I kinda drifted off… and I saw the most peculiar sight:

a very tall, slender man dressed in skinny jeans, a women’s blouse and platform sandals with a short yet feminine haircut and a face full of make up. Huh. And guess who was his date for the eventing? A lovely woman-pretty face with a short, masculine haircut dressed like a dude in a men’s polo and loose-fitting jeans. Walked like a guy too, kinda chubby, but I can tell boob boobs from man boobs, ma’am! Talk about The Odd Couple.

[There’s a point here, I promise.]

Anyway, on the “commercial breaks,” the host, comedian Steve Harvey, would speak candidly + answer some questions from the audience. The hype man began to ask, Steve if you were a woman.. And it must have hit a nerve, because Steve says, and I’m paraphrasing: There’s nothing about me that says woman. I can’t even begin to imagine what it means to be a woman-what it’s like! And then Bruce Jenner is supposed to be Caitlyn now? Nah.. nah. You can wear a dress and cut up all your parts if you want to, you still a man! And they want to give him Woman of the Year??! All these actual women out here and you want to give that award to a man?! Saying he’s “courageous.” Then they want him to pose nude in a magazine? Nobody wanna see that!  That’s another thing, I don’t like that America labels you a demon if you’re not in complete agreement of everything they love and accept. I. Don’t Care. That’s a man! He’d be courageous if he chopped it off, put it in a jar, sit it on his mantle and passed by it everyday. That’s courageous. Chop it up any which way you want, Bruce. You still a man.


Trust, I’m not a fan at all but Steve really does appear to be a down to earth guy that just likes money a whole lot. And I agree with what he said. My manners did escape me as my WTF face took over when I saw the manly lady and girly man together. Even though they are a heterosexual couple, it is confusing to me as an adult, so what might a kid think of it?   The only time I used to see trannies was in clubs in Vegas. And in Hollywood, they’d walk Sunset at 3a.m. You the dark. Now they’re everywhere all times of the day. Shameless! Why is lesbian this and trans that being shoved down our throats? Does every man want to be a woman and every woman want to be a man and we’re just now realizing? Why does a trans rights story always make the news? Why do many popular shows have a gay character and gay scenes? Are there really that many gays? What is this seemingly sudden surge? Why are trans rights put before basic human rights? Why should we accept this as normal?

Again, more rhetoric but feel free to share your thoughts. And just so we’re clear, I have no issue with gays, transexuals, transgenders, bisexuals. My issue is with media perpetuating this confusing and unusual lifestyle. Do what you want but don’t be mad at me for not understanding or nodding and smiling in agreement. I don’t get it, just like how I don’t get some religious practices or clothing style choices. Why isn’t it ok for us not to get this one either? And apologies for the ramble; thought I’d pull a Steve and speak candidly.

Oh oh, and guess who happened to be parked next to us? She even opened the door for him. Such a gentlewoman -_-


I’m always annoyed about why black people have to bear the brunt of everyone else’s contempt. If we are not totally understanding and smiling, suddenly we’re demons.

-Toni Morrison



Me too, Toni. Me too. Yet there are crickets or we’re told to shut up when we complain of our constant mistreatment.

When did we take on the weighty role of the scapegoat who doesn’t have the right to feel, disagree, have a bad day or simply be? And why? [rhetoric, but you’re welcome to answer]